Comments on: What Did I Miss?

By: Fred

Fred — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 21:30:46 +0000

Technology and time were my issues. Happy to share although I agree with Brian it would take a lot of time. . Very simply I would say that as Rob is constantly telling us we need to look at ourselves and how we can change and concentrate on being happy. Even more simply as a good friend of mine once said ‘its all about love’. If we can get to a place where we can love others whatever they choose to do we feel good whereas negative emotions always make us feel bad – of course this might mean we decide to move on from a relationship.

By: Rob McPhillips

Rob McPhillips — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 15:00:27 +0000

Thanks everyone for enlightening me.

I guess the topic was just one that is too deep and sensitive for many people to feel comfortable doing such a project.

I’m a little odd in some ways and sometimes I get out of tune with what others think and feel.

Maybe it’s something to come back to with a different approach later or maybe like Brian says leave it for when people are ready.

By: Gaia

Gaia — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 00:19:22 +0000

Rob, maybe some people (like me) just have their love life so messed up (up & down, love or hate…), that if we write something, we would end up confussing some of the readers.

By: galen

galen — Sun, 05 Oct 2008 16:25:56 +0000

I’m still on dial-up access, so I didn’t bother with the video.

While I’m inclined more toward reading and a bit of ontributing, I also haven’t made the time to do so. And this is an area where I can’t really help much – I haven’t had a relation break up for quite a while, and I know I’ve forgotten some of the experiences and sensations involved, which make for such breakups to be so painful.

I know at least part of the problem is that there seem to be myriad causes for breakups, and the experiences are extremely difficult to step back from while the breakup flows on, to determine how a person wants or needs to react to the process.

By: Eiggam

Eiggam — Sat, 04 Oct 2008 16:20:57 +0000

I know it was one of my comments and suggestion that you tackle this break-up issue but I never realised that when you did asked us to share our experiences, taht I would actually have difficult in sharing it with others not to mention the fact that I’m having hard time to convey in written words waht I truly feel so It was a struggle to even begin or respond.

By: osh

osh — Sat, 04 Oct 2008 11:11:24 +0000

I just didn’t feel too pushed toward the topic Rob! I’m not really sure I would have enjoyed reading other peoples stories as much as I enjoy reading your articles. I enjoy peoples comments and insights, but peoples breakup stories…I don’t know. Just being honest.

By: Brian

Brian — Sat, 04 Oct 2008 00:27:30 +0000

Hi Rob,

I set up a page to comment per directions, and intented to get on it when I had more time. I think what’s stopped me so far is that I know it will take me a LOT of time. I just know it would take me a lot of time to find the right words to convey a long story in a short space.

I think it is a great idea though. Maybe it needs to be a “special project” with a highlighted link of it’s own over to the right. We could all add to it over time and let it evolve. I think it is important enough to hold it’s own if given enough time to take root.

Thanks.

By: Jill

Jill — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 22:48:41 +0000

I am going through a relationship break-up as we speak, the most difficult thing i have ever done. I think it was too close to home so i didn’t comment.
So Rob, even after all the little white lies and a few big ones from my partner, do i give more of me to make him feel more loved and understood ? Do i give up being right because deep down i really do love him and i know he is a good person that just cant get it right? Or do i move on with integrity and change my view on myself, and give myself more credit for being able to do so?

By: Colin

Colin — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 15:20:10 +0000

Rob you’re right no one is posting anything. I will say this I like to read a lot, but after reading a lot on this page and others, I see now no one shares my life nor will anyone. I would like answers, but I can only find help to those answers. Ya know? I mean I know you say basically the same thing, but I believe that’s why people don’t respond. If only they could see someones story that was like their own, they would probably feel a lot better about sharing their own expirences and thoughts. I’m a shy guy so I could never share everything to everyone, maybe there’s a lot of people like me.