Comments on: Stop Reading And Start Thinking. The Problem With Self Help. http://livewithoutconflict.com/blog/stop-reading-and-start-thinking-after-this-post-though/ From Managing Stress To Finding And Following Your Bliss. Thu, 16 Jul 2009 10:02:30 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: case http://livewithoutconflict.com/blog/stop-reading-and-start-thinking-after-this-post-though/comment-page-1/#comment-364 case Wed, 30 Jul 2008 05:23:17 +0000 http://livewithoutconflict.com/blog/2008/03/05/stop-reading-and-start-thinking-after-this-post-though/#comment-364 ok...well it is a miracle i even read this... I'm not drawn to read much of anything I like to hear people and their experiences Only if they make some sense. If I don't read the news I don't think about it I like to try to keep things simple and thats not easy ok…well it is a miracle i even read this…
I’m not drawn to read much of anything
I like to hear people and their experiences
Only if they make some sense.
If I don’t read the news I don’t think about it
I like to try to keep things simple
and thats not easy

]]> By: Warren http://livewithoutconflict.com/blog/stop-reading-and-start-thinking-after-this-post-though/comment-page-1/#comment-268 Warren Mon, 23 Jun 2008 17:19:41 +0000 http://livewithoutconflict.com/blog/2008/03/05/stop-reading-and-start-thinking-after-this-post-though/#comment-268 It took me a while to realize it but no one is happy and no one is sad. Reality is whatever you make it. The cup is neither half empty nor half full. The cup merely is. Half of the cup is water and half is air. If you want it view the cup as being half empty, then it is. If you want to view the cup as being half full, then it is. If you are thirsty, then you want it half full! If you are drowning, then you want it half empty! You have it within your brain, the power of your own mind, to produce your own happiness. You can create your own happiness. And it is just as real as any sadness you create in your own mind, your own brain. If you want to be happy, then just be happy. I'm not saying it's easy. It takes practice. But it works. I've been doing it now for three weeks. I still fall into the trap of depression, but once I become aware of the depression, I pull myself out of it through mere thought. I don't want to be sad so I won't be sad. I refuse to be sad. I want to be happy. I want to enjoy life. I still do the same things I always did. I haven't changed anything in my life. I just enjoy the things I do. I've always enjoyed them, I just didn't realize I enjoyed them! That's why I did them because I enjoyed them. I just forgot! It took me a while to realize it but no one is happy and no one is sad. Reality is whatever you make it. The cup is neither half empty nor half full. The cup merely is. Half of the cup is water and half is air. If you want it view the cup as being half empty, then it is. If you want to view the cup as being half full, then it is. If you are thirsty, then you want it half full! If you are drowning, then you want it half empty! You have it within your brain, the power of your own mind, to produce your own happiness. You can create your own happiness. And it is just as real as any sadness you create in your own mind, your own brain. If you want to be happy, then just be happy.

I’m not saying it’s easy. It takes practice. But it works. I’ve been doing it now for three weeks. I still fall into the trap of depression, but once I become aware of the depression, I pull myself out of it through mere thought. I don’t want to be sad so I won’t be sad. I refuse to be sad. I want to be happy. I want to enjoy life. I still do the same things I always did. I haven’t changed anything in my life. I just enjoy the things I do. I’ve always enjoyed them, I just didn’t realize I enjoyed them! That’s why I did them because I enjoyed them. I just forgot!

]]> By: Paula http://livewithoutconflict.com/blog/stop-reading-and-start-thinking-after-this-post-though/comment-page-1/#comment-154 Paula Fri, 16 May 2008 16:45:07 +0000 http://livewithoutconflict.com/blog/2008/03/05/stop-reading-and-start-thinking-after-this-post-though/#comment-154 Self help books are a waste of time and money. Spend your time and money living. Go out there, open your eyes, watch, learn, and jump into life. Life is happening all the time all over. Good, bad or ugly learn to appreciate it all. Thanks for the chance to talk Rob. Paula Self help books are a waste of time and money.
Spend your time and money living.
Go out there, open your eyes, watch, learn, and jump into life.
Life is happening all the time all over. Good, bad or ugly learn to appreciate it all.
Thanks for the chance to talk Rob.
Paula

]]> By: How Come We Have So Much More Stuff, But Less Happiness? | Happiness 2.0 http://livewithoutconflict.com/blog/stop-reading-and-start-thinking-after-this-post-though/comment-page-1/#comment-70 How Come We Have So Much More Stuff, But Less Happiness? | Happiness 2.0 Wed, 19 Mar 2008 14:40:36 +0000 http://livewithoutconflict.com/blog/2008/03/05/stop-reading-and-start-thinking-after-this-post-though/#comment-70 [...] response to Kirk’s comment a short series on happiness and happiness [...] [...] response to Kirk’s comment a short series on happiness and happiness [...]

]]> By: Mar?na http://livewithoutconflict.com/blog/stop-reading-and-start-thinking-after-this-post-though/comment-page-1/#comment-69 Mar?na Mon, 17 Mar 2008 09:25:02 +0000 http://livewithoutconflict.com/blog/2008/03/05/stop-reading-and-start-thinking-after-this-post-though/#comment-69 That's absolutly right! Reading this rather short article I found out myself, exactly what for I read slef-help books. I can't say that all of them are useless but buying 4 3 of them gave me nothing..I try to find the answer how to live better.the secret. But not far, I understood that the main secret,the core of happy life is inside of us,in our understansing life. Thank you for such articles.I really appreciate your work That’s absolutly right!
Reading this rather short article I found out myself, exactly what for I read slef-help books. I can’t say that all of them are useless but buying 4 3 of them gave me nothing..I try to find the answer how to live better.the secret.
But not far, I understood that the main secret,the core of happy life is inside of us,in our understansing life.
Thank you for such articles.I really appreciate your work

]]> By: Rob McPhillips http://livewithoutconflict.com/blog/stop-reading-and-start-thinking-after-this-post-though/comment-page-1/#comment-68 Rob McPhillips Tue, 11 Mar 2008 16:39:30 +0000 http://livewithoutconflict.com/blog/2008/03/05/stop-reading-and-start-thinking-after-this-post-though/#comment-68 Thanks for your comments. Alessi, good point. In a coming report I'll be talking about how to deal with conflict, when you can't change the system. Robert, maybe one day I'll keep you to your generous offer of a beer. Making a living ethically has been the main issue of conflict in my life since I stopped selling my book and so on. I'm still grappling with it, but when I get the reports done that I most want to share I'll tell you the full details of why I think like this and how it's affected me. Kirk, very perceptive point. It's going to be my next blog post. Thanks for your comments.

Alessi, good point. In a coming report I’ll be talking about how to deal with conflict, when you can’t change the system.

Robert, maybe one day I’ll keep you to your generous offer of a beer.

Making a living ethically has been the main issue of conflict in my life since I stopped selling my book and so on.

I’m still grappling with it, but when I get the reports done that I most want to share I’ll tell you the full details of why I think like this and how it’s affected me.

Kirk, very perceptive point. It’s going to be my next blog post.

]]> By: Kirk http://livewithoutconflict.com/blog/stop-reading-and-start-thinking-after-this-post-though/comment-page-1/#comment-67 Kirk Mon, 10 Mar 2008 00:07:53 +0000 http://livewithoutconflict.com/blog/2008/03/05/stop-reading-and-start-thinking-after-this-post-though/#comment-67 Could it be that we're not more unhappy, but that we're simply more vocal about our unhappiness? Who knows, and how would we gauge it? Pardon me while I misquote a comedian, who said something sort of like, "I wish everyone could have all the things they'd dreamed of and do everything they want, so they could realize that isn't what makes a person happy." With the money I've spent on therapy, self-help books, and attorneys, I could have bailed out a third world country. I have nearly everything I've dreamed of except for the ever-elusive 'happiness'. I'd settle for halfway-content. Or even, 'not-sad'. If I had a choice between time and money, I'd take the money and give it to my kids, because in all the time I've had, I haven't done anything well and truly useful with it. Call me eeyore. Could it be that we’re not more unhappy, but that we’re simply more vocal about our unhappiness? Who knows, and how would we gauge it? Pardon me while I misquote a comedian, who said something sort of like, “I wish everyone could have all the things they’d dreamed of and do everything they want, so they could realize that isn’t what makes a person happy.” With the money I’ve spent on therapy, self-help books, and attorneys, I could have bailed out a third world country. I have nearly everything I’ve dreamed of except for the ever-elusive ‘happiness’. I’d settle for halfway-content. Or even, ‘not-sad’. If I had a choice between time and money, I’d take the money and give it to my kids, because in all the time I’ve had, I haven’t done anything well and truly useful with it. Call me eeyore.

]]> By: Robert http://livewithoutconflict.com/blog/stop-reading-and-start-thinking-after-this-post-though/comment-page-1/#comment-66 Robert Sat, 08 Mar 2008 17:21:45 +0000 http://livewithoutconflict.com/blog/2008/03/05/stop-reading-and-start-thinking-after-this-post-though/#comment-66 Rob, Thank you for sharing your well-considered thoughts with us. I am incredibly impressed and humbled by your views published here. I have been on your mailing list since you were the happiness coach, and I didn't realise you'd had such a change of heart. I wonder what you're doing for a living now. Writing like this is not the sort of thing that gets heard often. I never paid for your coaching services because after consuming self-help for years in various forms, I too finally realised that self-help was not helping, so paying for more seemed pointless. I haven't found many answers yet, but it's really good to know someone that's heading my way. I'd love to buy you a beer (or other consumable) if I was living nearby. Rob,

Thank you for sharing your well-considered thoughts with us. I am incredibly impressed and humbled by your views published here. I have been on your mailing list since you were the happiness coach, and I didn’t realise you’d had such a change of heart. I wonder what you’re doing for a living now. Writing like this is not the sort of thing that gets heard often. I never paid for your coaching services because after consuming self-help for years in various forms, I too finally realised that self-help was not helping, so paying for more seemed pointless. I haven’t found many answers yet, but it’s really good to know someone that’s heading my way. I’d love to buy you a beer (or other consumable) if I was living nearby.

]]> By: Daniela http://livewithoutconflict.com/blog/stop-reading-and-start-thinking-after-this-post-though/comment-page-1/#comment-63 Daniela Fri, 07 Mar 2008 02:52:54 +0000 http://livewithoutconflict.com/blog/2008/03/05/stop-reading-and-start-thinking-after-this-post-though/#comment-63 You are completely right when you say that we spend too much time reading and listening to ‘experts’. Thank you for making me to reflect about this. You are completely right when you say that we spend too much time reading and listening to ‘experts’.
Thank you for making me to reflect about this.

]]> By: alessi http://livewithoutconflict.com/blog/stop-reading-and-start-thinking-after-this-post-though/comment-page-1/#comment-62 alessi Thu, 06 Mar 2008 16:39:05 +0000 http://livewithoutconflict.com/blog/2008/03/05/stop-reading-and-start-thinking-after-this-post-though/#comment-62 Very interesting stuff and all true. The problem is most people are living just for today and find it difficult to exercise their own choice and reject other ones which are throne at us by the main stream providers. Life, particularly in UK and US is made to be quite regimented and for people wanting to step out of this set up is very difficult unless one decides to go and live in remote part of the countries I mentioned. Very interesting stuff and all true. The problem is most people are living just for today and find it difficult to exercise their own choice and reject other ones which are throne at us by the main stream providers. Life, particularly in UK and US is made to be quite regimented and for people wanting to step out of this set up is very difficult unless one decides to go and live in remote part of the countries I mentioned.

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