Comments on: The Power Of Human Rituals

By: Yorker

Yorker — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 08:46:28 +0000

Well that clash between my outer (disguise?) and inner self has perhaps contributed to that it's fairly hard for me to start commuticating with people.

I feel often hesitant to comform, to fashion, to groups, easily up being on my own, but still being alone is not an answer.

By: RobMcPhillips

RobMcPhillips — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 16:35:14 +0000

Interesting to note that people treat you as they see you, rather than as you are.

Yes, I think routines are essential for a high level creativity or thinking.

By: RobMcPhillips

RobMcPhillips — Sat, 28 Feb 2009 16:33:17 +0000

Thanks for sharing, Connie.

Many people I have spoken to have cited having a child as being the thing that made them grow up. Although most were much older than you.

As you say many others in the same situation would not grow up. So perhaps it is the decision to take responsibility that led to the step into adulthood?

By: Yorker

Yorker — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 22:20:19 +0000

At the age of 30, being small and slender, i could still be thought to be under-age if i wore a baseball cap. Until they could see my face. I blame it on my size that i wasn't treated as adult when regarding to my age i already was one (5 ft 2in). I don't know exact point of transition mentally, it must have been one of those realisations, loss of innocence, "the world is bad" (although nothing to do with myself). I must have been over 20 by then, although wasn't innocent or childish any more. I'm not a parent so that's not applicable to me.

I too hate routines, but actually have made some of my own, especially for mornings. I think partly they might help to create "the right time and space" for at least artistic work.

By: Connie

Connie — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 18:49:48 +0000

I became a mother when I was only 16. Becoming a parent can have a very abrupt effect on one's maturation. There are parents who I have met who did not become "adults" when they became parents, i.e. did not financially support their children, or put the child's needs before their own, but I did. At 16 I was working full time, paying all my bills on my own and living on my own. That's the best answer I have to these questions.