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	<title>Comments on: Stop Blaming: Cut Your Losses And Move On</title>
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		<title>By: Brian</title>
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		<description>Thanks Rob for your insight on my dilemma. I see where you&#039;re coming from. Blame keeps you stuck because it&#039;s still a form of backward gazing. Staying in the &#039;Here and now&#039; doesn&#039;t waste time that way.

However, when I look at how I&#039;ve felt since uncovering the source of my limiting beliefs, I don&#039;t think I&#039;m feeling blame, but rather a strong desire to change those beliefs I formed early on. 

When I finally uncovered where the roots of my poor self image began, I didn&#039;t see it as someone else&#039;s fault. I just felt I had less reason to be proud of myself than the other kids and internalized it. I then behaved in ways that projected that belief and experienced the sting of rejection from both the kids I wanted to be like and myself. Even with things to counter this as an adult, it just stayed with me through the years.

I do feel that discovering why I&#039;ve always had self doubts is powerful. But I also feel that being able to also replace that with a more empowering view of myself, would be invaluable. Just thought it would come naturally once the work was done and it hasn&#039;t. 

So for me I don&#039;t think it&#039;s about blame. My old view just seems so ingrained in me that I&#039;m having more trouble replacing it than I thought I would. Dealing with recent divorce and all the guilt and regrets I&#039;m experiencing with that is probably is not helping matters either, but that&#039;s also what&#039;s spurred the introspection, so there it is.

Anyway, I think I&#039;m on to something that maybe just needs a little time to develop. I do value your insights greatly and have found them useful. Thanks in advance for your patience with my wanderings.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thanks Rob for your insight on my dilemma. I see where you&#8217;re coming from. Blame keeps you stuck because it&#8217;s still a form of backward gazing. Staying in the &#8216;Here and now&#8217; doesn&#8217;t waste time that way.</p>
<p>However, when I look at how I&#8217;ve felt since uncovering the source of my limiting beliefs, I don&#8217;t think I&#8217;m feeling blame, but rather a strong desire to change those beliefs I formed early on. </p>
<p>When I finally uncovered where the roots of my poor self image began, I didn&#8217;t see it as someone else&#8217;s fault. I just felt I had less reason to be proud of myself than the other kids and internalized it. I then behaved in ways that projected that belief and experienced the sting of rejection from both the kids I wanted to be like and myself. Even with things to counter this as an adult, it just stayed with me through the years.</p>
<p>I do feel that discovering why I&#8217;ve always had self doubts is powerful. But I also feel that being able to also replace that with a more empowering view of myself, would be invaluable. Just thought it would come naturally once the work was done and it hasn&#8217;t. </p>
<p>So for me I don&#8217;t think it&#8217;s about blame. My old view just seems so ingrained in me that I&#8217;m having more trouble replacing it than I thought I would. Dealing with recent divorce and all the guilt and regrets I&#8217;m experiencing with that is probably is not helping matters either, but that&#8217;s also what&#8217;s spurred the introspection, so there it is.</p>
<p>Anyway, I think I&#8217;m on to something that maybe just needs a little time to develop. I do value your insights greatly and have found them useful. Thanks in advance for your patience with my wanderings.</p>
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