Is It Overwhelming To Do?
Continuing with 007’s comments.
Is it overwhelming to do all this for every issue?
Yes. But you don’t need to do it most of the time. What I am laying out is the process for overcoming an issue. Maybe for a while you have to do this consciously for big issues, but as you do the process you lay down a neural pathway that makes it easier for each subsequent time. So after a while it becomes an automatic response that you do without even realising it. But of course like anything, there is a learning curve.
Will you be overwhelmed by doing it in little chunks? Maybe. If you can deal with it one big chunk, then do it in one big chunk.
But the idea behind the small chunks is that it makes a big decision more manageable. In most cases people are stuck on making a decision because there are many other things they know are involved in the decision, but they can’t think of them all at the same time. So making small decisions is easier.
It all depends on what’s right for you. Stephen Hawking can calculate all his workings out in his head because that’s the way his brain has become structured. But his Peers need boards and papers to map out their thoughts. It just depends on what works best for you.
I’m not big on following processes and recipes. I don’t think life is about consciously following templates. I think you have to understand the basic process and then develop and refine it with your own individual stamp. So what I have done is analyse how issues are successfully dealt with and then broken the process down to detailed steps for you to digest and then develop your own way of working with them. It’s just a starting point so you have something to work with.
Which issues to tackle?
All of them. If they are on your mind, process them so they move from your mind to resolved and forgotten.
You’re right that most of them will come to nothing. Over time all stress passes. It passes because the issue no longer becomes a big deal or because you change your perspective, beliefs and definitions that make it no longer relevant to you. Or it will become so urgent that it becomes a priority to deal with it. Emergencies are almost always only little things that blew up to crisis level.
This process is about manipulating what naturally happens, so that you can make it happen faster.
Most of the time in life you’ll be off-balance. This is all about getting back to a calmer, clearer state quicker. Prolonged stress is costly, any way you measure it. If you were only to look at it in terms of physical health, stress only starts to damage you, once it starts depleting your body. The release of adrenalin that activates the ‘fight or flight’ response is a normal state. But it’s when that state is maintained for a prolonged period that Cortisol is released and the body begins to destroy itself to fuel the readiness to act, that stress starts taking a toll on your health.
Again it depends on how much tolerance you have for drama and internal conflict and confusion in your life. I have very little. I like calmness, peace and stability. I have great enthusiasm and passion for what I do. I already have more plans than I will ever have time to complete. Many people need great dramas to motivate them into action and give them a focus for action.
The key is not to sit there with your pen and paper ready permanently processing, but to get to zero stress and then catch issues as they crop up. As you get better and better at doing this, you can do it quicker and more easily. What holds people up is wanting perfection on every issue. You can’t get that, you just have to either make a decision or put it aside to make a decision at a specific time.
voice keeps telling me that we are missing something..
I think we are, but this is only a first draft. It’s the best I could come up with to explain this now. The key question for all of us, is what’s missing in this model? What would make it smoother and easier for us all to implement in our lives?
