Thanks to everyone who took the time to comment or vote on the last post. I’m glad that most people want to continue because we’re about to get to the meat of the topic. I have pretty much ready the next installment of how to process the information, but before you read that I have a mission for you… should you choose to accept it. First, let me set the stage a little.

People get all hung up and paralysed when they are stressed. But 99.9% of the time it passes. Their Boss quits and work becomes much less of a problem, their money problems pass, they stop worrying about their ex and start a new relationship or whatever.

We always worry about stuff that’s temporal, which means that what we worry about always changes and so passes. Sometimes our worries come to life and then we deal with them. Sometimes they bring new worries and so we just get new sources of stress. But the individual things that we were worrying about always move to a place where they stop bothering us.

So what we are looking to do is get to the end goal, move from stressed to resolved about an issue, quicker, so it causes us less discomfort. By speeding up the natural process, we avoid or minimise the discomfort.

So today, I’m asking for your help.

You have a whole databank filled with years of experiences of successfully overcoming stress and observing other people deal or not deal with situations.

You may never have thought of it that way. You might just have thought ‘time heals’ or ‘it just became unimportant’. But there’s a sequence of changes in your mind that happened so that the event no longer causes you stress or emotional pain.

So if you could, please add your experiences, or those you’ve observed, as many as you can and in as much detail as you can. Then I’ll try to gather them together, analyse and figure out the many different ways that caused people to process events and how we can use these natural processes to get rid of stresses quicker.

The reason I want to get this from you now, is because after the next post, you might start looking at the situation differently. I want your raw experiences, to see if there is something I have missed.

Then on Monday, I’ll post the next instalment. Meanwhile I’ll be sifting through your experiences for more ideas.

You can add your comments below. But in case you only want to share them with me, for the purposes of research, without them ever being shared, you can send them to me here.

Please detail the situation, what happened and the end result.

Looking back on it, what has changed?

How do you/they feel differently about the situation?

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